Twenties VS. Thirties


If you’re a regular, you may have noticed that I sort of fell off of the face of the blogging and social media earth for the past week.  Sorry, friend.  I have been working non-stop lately and my mom and nephew were in town this past weekend, so I just decided to take a few days to unplug and spend time with my fam.  It was such a wonderful and much needed break!  After dropping them at the airport yesterday morning, I started hammering away at my much neglected inbox, did some paperwork/accounting tasks that were begging to be completed, and then headed for the westside for our big Trophy Cupcake bash at Urbanic!

I left a little early because no trip to Venice is complete without a meal at Gjelina, so an hour before party time I cozied up to the communal table and ordered my favorite escarole salad.  (Which, by the way, is so amazing that it has inspired me to start making more of an effort to perfect my own salad making skills. Stay tuned!)  Half way through my delicious meal, these two young gals joined the communal table and began catching up.  I wasn’t intentionally eavesdropping, but it was, after all, a communal table and it was hard not to catch bits and pieces of conversation; stories of roommate drama, recent dates, and of course the nagging question that haunts us all at 23, “What do I want to do with my life?”  My 23 year old self could so relate to everything they were going through and there was a part of me that wanted to lean over and assure them that everything would totally work out.

Instead I ended up getting lost in my own reflections.  There is something about turning thirty in a few months, and also this new life stage of growing our family that we are in, that has made me really examine the last handful of years and how wonderfully things have developed.  It has taken some unexpected turns and a lot of long hours and hard work, but, as this decade begins to slowly draw to a close, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else doing anything else with anyone else and for that I am beyond grateful.

Your twenties are great.  They’re for figuring out who you are, where you want to be, and meeting a lot of fun people along the way.  They tend to be full of somewhat sketchy decisions, really meaningful friendships, and memories that will last long after the decade is over.  As wonderful as they are, though, I am really looking forward to this new decade and a new evolution–  as a person, as a family, and in my career.  It’s still a few months away, but I am so incredibly grateful for the last ten years and couldn’t be more excited about the next ten.

Anyone else relate?  Any thirty-somethings out there have any wisdom to impart?  Thanks for letting me get a little personal today… tomorrow I promise we will be back to your regularly scheduled programming!

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  1. I’ll be 30 in May so I’m right there wit you. For some reason, 30 doesn’t seem as scary as it used to be. You’re right, the 20s were fun and challenging but I’m ready to move forward. Lots of lessons have been learned that have made me a much stronger person. Bring it on 30!!


    • Jen Pinkston


      I love it! I feel like confidence is a word that people keep using when referring to their thirties and it seems so true. I am much more sure of the path I am on staring down the barrel of thirty than I was at 19 looking forward to 20.

  2. rachel


    I just had my 50th, and at my party there were friends and family from aged 4 to 80, my advice and experience are that if you keep true to yourself, surround yourself with love and keep open to the future all will be well. Some people ‘do’ the decades in a different order, or at the same time, but the gift of life and love is always there if we accept it. Big hugs and keep stylish xx

    • Jen Pinkston


      Love this advice, Rachel. Thank you so much for sharing!

  3. Hi Jen,
    I’m new to your blog (and now check it everyday!) and think it’s fab! I turned 30 this May and must say, I really thought I’d handle it perfectly well because, I thought, why wouldn’t I?! 20’s were a blur of running around London trying to work out who I am, what I’m doing and trying to teach myself that bad boys are never a good idea! On my 28th bday I met the most wonderful man who ticked every cliche box perfectly and the last 3.5 years have been so special. We’ve been hopping back and forth between London and New York (my home & his home), having a really brilliant time.
    When 30 came, I realised I wasn’t quite where I wanted to be – not location wise, but more in myself. I’ve aways really struggled to be satisfied with myself and what I do every day. To combat this, this year I have been working really hard to set up a website and my own business. It’s taking shape and I hope to launch at the end of the year. These things seem to take an inordinate amount of time when you’re juggling with a day job and trying to make the most of evenings and weekends!
    What I’m saying is that having a wonderful family, boyfriend, health and a job that pays the bills, I felt like I should be grateful – but have realised that ever since I was a little girl I’ve always wanted to be proud of myself. I was once proud of being a Personal Assistant but as I’ve gotten older it’s become less and less my dream career and I’ve really wanted something of my own that I can be proud of.
    From where I’m standing it seems like you’re in such a wonderful position, with your fab business, your stud-muffin husband and a little baby on the way!
    You’re a really inspiring woman 🙂

    • Oh my – I met him on my 27th birthday! Time flies…!

    • Jen Pinkston


      Congratulations, Heidi! It sounds like you are in the middle of a really exciting adventure! I remember how hard it was to leave my full-time job and start my own business. The first year was filled with ups and downs, but having been at it for two+ years now, I can say with full confidence that it was one of the best decisions I have ever made! Keep me posted when your new business launches and best of luck to you– it’s going to be great! xx

  4. I turned 30 last May, and it hit me like a truck. I loved my 20s and all those mistakes, crossroads, and parties when people got married, graduated– or just had a party because Gilmore Girls was ending–that came with it. It’s no wonder, though, with all the life decisions and multiple people coming into, or leaving, our lives that Gertrude Stein branded 20-Somethings as “The Lost Generation,” (she let Ernest Hemingway use this term for his book The Sun Also Rises).

    Nonetheless, Gertrude was also quoted saying, “We are always the same age inside.” Now that I’m *officially* 30, I already feel more free to individualize my style, solidify my decorating and home-making into what I truly like or want, not what feels most trendy; and it feels good to look back and know the connections you made in your twenties carry-over and will anchor your 30s and personal choices ahead.

    Knowing all that, looking into my 30s feels exciting, exhilarating, and more confident than my 20s…!!

    • Jen Pinkston


      I love that, Anna. I completely agree. The 30s seemed to be filled with much more confidence than the 20s. One of the perks of growing up!

  5. Shannon


    If you have a few minutes you sould read my post, 34. I think you’ll like it! And good for you for unplugging and enjoying your fam. We’ve all got to do that from time to time 🙂

  6. Hi Jen! I am new to your blog and love it. I’m also on the brink of 30, less than 6 months to go! As much as I truly miss all that was wonderful in my early 20’s, late nights with friends, an empty bank account, roller coaster relationships and more, I am really looking forward to the groove that I think will be my 30’s. I struggle with being in a different spot than my friends that are married or with kids, but it’s also amazing to see the people you love come into their own as well. I also feel as though my 20’s had a lot of displaced energy, positive and negative, and I’m hoping my 30’s will be more focused and meaningful. I think it will still be a bit before I figure it all out. 🙂 Cheers to the next decade!