It’s not that I wasn’t warned. I was told time and time again by friends, by strangers, by the person fondling the avocados next to me in the produce section, “The transition from one to two was so much harder than I expected.” It’s not that I didn’t believe them, but some things are impossible to prepare yourself for until you are just thrust right into it. Six months and a nanny later, though, we are finding our way and settling into our new groove. In an effort to try to make the most of every free moment and to stop getting that paralyzed ‘deer in the headlights’ feeling when I found myself with a free five minutes, I started unconsciously doing this thing that’s actually been pretty helpful. I call it the next three things and here’s how it works…
The next three things means that no matter what I’m doing in one moment, I’m aware of what the next three things I’m going to do are. For example, right now I’m writing copy for this post, but as soon as I’m done I’m going to edit a post on friendship that’s ready to go, work on next Friday’s post, and then catch up on new emails that I can see are coming in now. If I’m up playing with Ever, the next three things might be to feed her, change her clothes and play on the ground for a bit, and then let her play or put her in the carrier while I unload the dishwasher. Usually as I’m doing one of these tasks, I’ll realize what it is I’m going to do next. It’s particularly helpful in the evenings when I’m by myself with the girls. 1. Get Parker to eat dinner. 2. While she’s eating, run the bathwater for both girls. 3. Once she’s done, bathe both girls. It’s helpful with not losing track of time and also with helping me to get things done in those fringe minutes that you find yourself with on occasion so that I can devote my big chunks of time to bigger projects that need more headspace. Do you have any quirky or interesting systems or routines that help you with the daily juggle? Also, does this outfit say, ‘mom’, or what? But you know, ‘I’m a cool mom’, hopefully.
Photography by Katie Jameson