If your Instagram feed hasn’t been inundated with images of Sophia Amoruso’s book, #GIRLBOSS, then we are definitely following different people. I’ve seen it pictured next to countless pools, boarding passes, and even on a lounge chair or two. Some day, when I have finally finished Wonder Weeks and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child (page turners, let me tell you) I do plan to read it. In the meantime, though, I’ve been pondering the idea of raising a #GirlBoss, because that is in fact my goal. I want to raise a confident, independent girl who will grow up with the ability to be a CEO or creative entrepreneur or anything else her heart desires.
Since we brought this little lady home from the hospital over three months ago, she’s been giving us small clues that she might be quite the strong-willed, independent gal. Exhibit A: She pretty much insisted on sleeping in her crib in her own room from the moment we brought her home. So long sweet bassinet. There’s also the face she makes when she finally drifts off to sleep after protesting a nap. It says “I may be asleep, but it’s on my own terms.”
Last weekend we were at the Farmer’s Market eating our Sunday breakfast burritos when I overheard a girl (probably 6 or 7) behind me begging her dad for kettle corn. He had already said no a couple of times, but she continued to reason with him that she had finished her entire breakfast and that she was able to get some once before so why was today any different? I was torn. Ideally our kids accept our yes or no at face value and that’s that, right? No whining. No begging. No repeating of the same question over and over. But as an adult we want them to keep striving for what they want. We’ve all been told in our adult life, “Don’t take no for an answer!”. So how, then, do I raise a sweet little girl who will graciously accept that we aren’t having kettle corn after breakfast burritos on Sunday and a girl who will move off to New York some day, start her own company and become a total #GirlBoss?
Forbes Magazine suggests the way to raising confident girls is to minimize the princesses and sign her up for sports. More soccer, less Cinderella. I resonated with PBS when they encourage parents to let daughters make constructive choices about their own life, whether it’s choosing her clothes or after-school activities. Making their own choices from a young age builds their confidence. Even the Today show has tips for raising confident, assertive girls. I would love to know, though, any moms out there have any advice? Is Sheryl Sandberg’s mom out there somewhere? Who raised Marissa Mayer? If you’re reading this, please weigh in!